My online counseling style is a bit eclectic - I use the best of several established and recognized methods.
However, my general approach to helping people with issues is an educational one. The theory that guides much of my practice is a variation of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy, or REBT, developed by Albert Ellis, PhD.
We often believe that our behaviors and feelings are caused by what happens in the real world. Yet, when we have an experience of any kind, we first apply our own beliefs to the experience, giving it individual meaning based on those beliefs.
Which means that our behaviors and feelings are actually the result of our individual beliefs.
When we have irrational beliefs, we suffer from strong negative emotions (like rage, depression, and anxiety). When we act on the basis of irrational beliefs, our actions are often not effective and can even be harmful.
If we have rational beliefs, we experience more positive emotions (like pleasure, hope, and joy). We still feel mildly negative emotions, like irritation, sadness, and concern, but our behaviors are more effective.
RET teaches you to recognize irrational beliefs, dispute them, and replace them with more rational beliefs.
At eCounseling Service, your therapy is a partnership between the client (you) and the therapist (me). You define problem areas to be worked on, and I use my educational counseling tools to help you make positive changes.
Psychotherapy is not like visiting a medical doctor. It requires your very active involvement and best efforts to change thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. For example, even if I don't specifically ask, I still want you to talk about important experiences, what they mean to you, and what strong feelings are involved. This is just one of the many ways you can be an active partner in therapy at eCounseling Service, LLC.
Another important part of your therapy with eCounseling Service, LLC will be practicing new skills learned in sessions. I will ask you to practice "tool box" skills outside of meetings, and will work to set up homework assignments with you. I might ask you to do exercises, to keep records, and perhaps to do other tasks to deepen your learning.
You will likely need to work on relationships in your life and make long-term efforts to get the best results. These are important parts of personal change. Change will sometimes be easy and quick, but more often it will be slow and frustrating. And you will need to keep trying and not give up. There are no instant, painless cures and no "magic pills" in traditional or online counseling.
As a part of your therapy, you may be asked to get a medical exam or to request certain medical or blood tests from your physician (MD). This is based on the foundational belief that psychology and counseling cannot cure a physical problem and that it is unethical to treat a physical problem with counseling.
There are a number of issues for which people commonly seek counseling that could be physical in origin. This course of action is designed to rule out any medical problems so we can focus on your issues with greater assurance.
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